Make changes and get stressed to develop!
Updated: Jan 14
Human nature tends to lead us towards patterns and 'normality'. The problem with any pattern is that over time we adapt to a point where we cease to progress, otherwise known as a plateau.
An example of this can be seen in the nervous system, which when left or not challenged via controlled stress, will always choose the easiest path to survive and maintain the functions of our organs etc. Controllable stress is essential for our development which can be seen when adopting any new movement pattern. Take for example an infant that is learning to walk ... starting on all fours the stabilising muscles and aspects of neurological development begin to develop to allow the body to function correctly in preparation for standing upright and maintaining posture (a form of controlled stress). The infant then begins to walk and takes one step at a time until eventually increasing the pace and running around the room. This all takes a lot of awareness and focus in the initial stages which again shows aspects of stress. The body then starts to work hard to 'adapt' to this by making itself more efficient and functional for the job in hand. If help is needed the infant generally makes it clear to the parent or guardian.
The key here is change, which leads to development and also assessing who you need help from ... then asking for help.
As people age, for one reason or another, we seem to stop moving or learning as it seems to be built into a modern 'western world' society that learning is done in the first 1/4 of your life and reduces from there on. I personally feel I have learned more since I left school than whilst there, which I owe to the many inspirational people in my life. Reasons behind lack of continual learning can be down to; ego, adopting a 'busy' life, television, family, friends etc. All of which can come in handy for different reasons ... but ... if you are unhappy with the way things are ... make changes now or things will remain the same!
"If you sit all day in a chair ... you will become the chair. We become what we repeatedly do."
This comes back to the SAID principle:
In physical rehabilitation and sports training, the SAID principle asserts that the human body adapts specifically to imposed demands. In other words, given stressors on the human system, whether biomechanical or neurological, there will be a Specific Adaptation to Imposed Demands (SAID). - Wikipedia 2016
... My recommendation is to start anything new gradually and with goals along the way. Write down the following things and think 'life resolutions' not 'new years resolutions' ;
First we start with what you love about your life right now ...
1 - What do I love about my life or if it has stopped ... what did I love about my life?
(It could be anything, the idea is to identify something that makes you happy)
2 - What do I need to do to be able to do more of this or spend more time doing this?
(Here we need to realise a sacrifice of some kind has to be made in order for this to happen. Decide how you can find the time to make this happen, make time for you and what makes you happy!)
3 - Who do I need help from to make this happen?
(Now you know what you want to do, find someone who knows how to do it and how to show you. Utilise your skills in your existing work that you have most likely studied for years. Paying someone else who has dedicated their life to their studies to show you the way to go is far more worth while from a time and wealth perspective in the long run!)
4 - Decide how much time you would like to dedicate to your choice per week ... then minus 25% of that!
(Quite often the reason that a lot of people cannot stick to something is due to over commitment. These things only remain enjoyable and allow us to develop if they are giving us an element of controlled manageable stress ... not compiling to our stress and making our lives harder!
Now we see how we can implement new skills ...
4 - What new skill would I like to start learning?
(It could be anything; Yoga, fitness, martial arts, music, art, dancing ... anything! The idea is to pick something new that will challenge you mentally and physically that will provide you with a small amount of stress. This can also be something within an existing practice that you would like to develop or progress towards.)
5 - Repeat steps 2, 3 and 4 for the above skill.
6 - Now do it! It is literally that simple ... no excuses ... just go! ... and from personal experience ... get up early and get these done as soon as possible, as you are far more likely to get it done earlier rather than later!
The above questions helped me pursue my passion, I have loved every one of my jobs and my plan is to continue doing this for as long as possible.
Make changes, adapt accordingly and thrive within the change. It is not easy but thats' why it is change! We are not around on this earth long enough to waste a day!
A good friend passed away in his early 50's and his words inspire me to this day ...
Survive, Thrive, Inspire - Guy Marriott
My hope is that this blog makes you realise the following ...
"You are far more capable than you think and can achieve incredible things if you create the space in your life to do so! In turn your change today may inspire many others tomorrow. Start now"